As soon as I was in the tub, my body went into full primal mode, and I can only remember the feeling of breathing down whilst playing the HypnoBirthing affirmations in the background and Ricky’s voice in the distance coaching me to keep doing J-Breaths.
I was using gas at this stage to help take the edge off and to get an easier rhythm for breathing. My midwife placed a mirror in the water and when I saw the head starting to crown. I felt such a rush of endorphins and motivation that I went a little hard & fast on the bearing down and instinctively included some pushing just following my bodies lead.
Our midwife checked on the heart beat of our baby with the Doppler and couldn’t find it straight away, right when my second last surge came, so I knew instinctively he needed to come with the next 2 breaths.
This is the time when I went into a total blur – I think I actually did what they say, I went to the stars & universe to collect him!
When I came back his head was out which gave me such a rush of happiness that I started laughing and smiling at Ricky, sat down on my bum leaning back (I was kneeling before) and did the last breath as gently and softly as possible so that he shot out like a torpedo with the expulsion reflex.
I looked down, saw him floating in the water, picked him up myself and he was ours forever. He didn’t cry and just stared at me with open eyes peacefully, then after some rubbing on the back I heard his cute little squeal for the first time!!
We spent 1 hour of bonding in the water and delayed clamping the cord until the cord stopped pulsating. Ricky cut the cord and then I came out of the tub with bub in my arms.
I did 2 more J-Breaths to birth the placenta easily with Riv in my arms sitting on the toilet.
We went to the bed for more skin to skin, and the first feed, then Ricky got his skin-to-skin, and we fixed my natural tearing from the super intense transition phase with just a few stitches.
It was simply magical, unbelievable and empowering.
River is so calm, easy to settle and feeds like a champ. We couldn’t be happier and still can’t believe we actually did it.
Much love from Mila, Ricky and River
THANK YOU for helping us achieve this.